My wife is very supportive and hasn't suggested she wants to impose limitations such as X times per week being dressed. My approach is to try to prevent her from needing to do that. I don't want her to feel forced to manage something that she perceives to be out of control.
I make sure she has lots of quality time with me when I'm in "guy" clothes. Although I'd like to discuss clothes 24/7, I make darned sure I talk about anything else, just as we did before I came out of the closet two months ago. I try really hard to do two things:
- Make sure a large portion of our quality time together happens with me in male mode. Some weeks, this is easily the majority of our time together. Other weeks, it's less and probably around half and half.
- When I'm dressed in front of my wife, I make extra efforts to give her attention and focus. This isn't hard for me to do, and she definitely notices.
My goal is to ensure that from my wife's perspective, crossdressing is a non-threatening and fun aspect of the person she married, and not a huge issue that's been forced into the marriage and she is pressured to corral.
I think it is our responsibility to manage it so our SO's don't feel like they have to. Of course, if we receive boundaries, then we need to respect those requests and at least discuss them, but I don't think it is fair to go hog wild and dress 24/7 and make crossdressing the topic of every conversation. That is just my opinion.
