Kelly, the OP made it clear he's not sleeping around. He finds himself in the difficult position of wanting to CD with a non-accepting gf.

TV2010, the people in this forum are only trying to point out to you that not telling your gf the truth will result in having issues down the road. You just can't keep something like this under wraps. Even if you are great at leaving no evidence, she will feel the disconnect just in reading your body language. And the more you hide, the more she will become convinced that there IS something to hide. This will be much worse than if you are strong from the onset, and simply tell her that you are a crossdresser and it is not going away.

At first I thought her issue might have been more with the partying or meeting other CDs, since this is what you indicated in your first posts. But, if you've already tried to talk to her and she's still not willing to listen, you might consider joint counseling. Many CDs in the forum have gone to therapists with their SOs, and even if the SOs don't walk away fully embracing the concept, at least they can be brought to understand that it is a real need and not a perversion, or whatever they might think it might be.

Read the OP's journey in this thread:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ing-Counseling

Also, you might like to read these resources. The first is about how to talk to partners, and the second describes why a partner might be hot & cold about the CDing.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...l-your-partner
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...It-Now-I-Don-t

The impression I get from your posts is that you gf feels threatened by your interactions with other CDs/TSs. Is this correct? Would she be more OK with the CDing if she new that you CD at home only?

If she doesn't like the idea of you meeting others, maybe she feels insecure about certain aspects of your intimacy together. Sorry to be so blunt, but is everything OK in the bedroom between you two? Or does your gf have past cause to be jealous about anything? I'm not judging you here, just trying to figure out why she feels insecure. Or is she naturally a jealous person?

I want to say that it's not uncommon for GGs at first to feel there is a sexual component with the CDing ... google it, and you'll see many hook-up CD sites. Also, look at the pics that are posted. A GG will look at pics of CDs posing in lingerie or sexy clothing, for example, and think they do this to attract other men.

Back to the topic of meeting others: I think your first step would be to try to get your gf to believe that you simply need to express yourself, alone or with her. Then if she at least begins to acknowledge your needs, you can join a TG support group where wives & gfs are also welcomed and ask your gf to join you. She'll be able to see that it's not all about hooking up with other CDs.

But all of this will take time. I hope you have the patience for it. All the other CDs here will tell you that rushing things doesn't produce good results.