Quote Originally Posted by Pythos View Post
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Now, to the point of this thread.

Why is fetish viewed so negatively? Why do fellow CDers or Transsexuals put others down for this aspect.

And for those that are turned on, if only for a little bit during the process, explain some of the feelings (within decency) that accompany those items you find most "sexy"

GGs, please be truthful and say if you also find some stuff arousing.

I am curious about this aspect, but really do not like what I find on the internet.
John Q. Public or at least a large part of it can only associate women's clothing and men in a couple of ways: the standard promiscuously gay and looking or the panty (or worse) wearing sexually deviant pervert. A lot in our community seem to condemn those who give in to the "baser" urges of self satisfaction using women's clothing in order to distance themselves from the image of those self-gratifying perverts.

Even my little brother tried to liken it alcoholism in that I would need more and more items of clothing and turn into a raving masturbatorial lunatic. My father said to me "if I thought that was the case we would be having a serious talk."

But like Pythos for me there is an erotic side to it. When I discovered panties around age 12 the thought or sight of them was instantly arousing but then a sneaked look at adult magazines or books or sometimes as little provocation as the wind blowing the right way would be arousing. The less secretive and hidden I've had to be about being me along with some self acceptance and the fact I'm approaching 40 rather than 14 has led to less and less of an erotic component to it. That said a long hot shower, freshly shaved legs and a matching lingerie set with hosiery under a skirt and top will always feel both physically and mentally sexier (and look that way at least to me) than cotton fly front briefs and jeans.

I went to the internet around 2000-2001 knowing that I liked to wear panties and thinking I was the only man who did. I found I was wrong and waded through a lot garbage to find two sites that offered more than a cybersex playground and eventually led me to this wonderful site.

For a GG point of view I asked my wife if she felt a difference between "cotton grannies" and sexier underwear. She told me that she didn't feel she looked good in it and so it had the opposite effect of arousal although she likes to wear it for me.