I've had success a few times by asking girls to kiss me the way they wanted to be kissed. Basically, you're 're-active', instead of the initiator of the action. Just wait until he does whatever, and do your best to respond to that, being careful not to take over the 'lead'. Some guys like tongue in their mouth, some don't. Most will separate their lips then insert tongue, to what extent will vary among men ( info gained from listening to women discuss this). After listening carefully, I learned what they expected. I suppose CD'ers will do the same. Practice, practice, practice.