I know this might throw a bit of a monkey wrench into this, but my CDing boyfriend is probably one of the most masculine guys I've ever dated. He's into extreme sports, he oozes old world gentlemanliness in a very honest sort of way, and sometimes is just SUCH a boy about things. It's really not an 'act' striving towards a stereotype to show the world he's manly enough, it just happens kind of by accident, as a byproduct of his personality I think. Other, non-CDing boyfriends I've had have turned out to not have a backbone to stand up with and it leads to a very dissatisfactory relationship for me. I have always maintained that my boyfriend's feminine side (which he expresses by dressing) lets him have insights into why certain things are important to me; I honestly wouldn't have the one part without the other. He is a whole only because the 'she' is there with him. Amy, I'm so sorry that your marriage did not work out - but wouldn't you like for the next however many years you have left (should you choose to be in a relationship again) be with someone who knows and loves all of you? To whom you find all the little ways to show your love in return?
