The nature of a major, very open site like this allows us all to "let it all hang out." Being exposed to the vast spectrum of behavior and attitudes among us can be offputting, even freightening to a partner who is just starting to come to grips with her hubbie's CDing. The majority of posts on here could well represent the worst nightmares of a wife who is utterly unprepared to deal with the variety of expression in the community.
(Of course, there can be a similar "culture shock" when SOs first attend TG/CD support groups. Even in a relatively benign, controlled, conservative setting like a Tri-Ess meeting, they are going to be exposed to CDers who have taken things far beyond what they are ready to deal with in their partners.)
I think it would be good if there were more of a "firewall" on this site between new SO members and the rest of us crazies. Keep the newbie partners at arm's length from the regular CD/TG forums for a fairly lengthy initial period, allowing access only to the SO boards and perhaps a section of carefully vetted informational articles. Don't throw them to the lions (lionesses?) until they've gotten their feet wet on the subject.
