First, I want to start early voting for Best Thread of 2011 and propose this as a sticky.
My wife has not accepted this "lifestyle" at all. A lot of what is discussed on the board is what I've spent some time assuring her I am not. Not interested in SRS, not interested in full time, not bi. But she would latch onto those threads (as we all latch onto our greatest fear sometimes) and it might even be the end of us.
So no, I would not point my wife this way (just as I wouldn't recommend "Alice in Genderland" to her) until she's a LOT more understanding of the wide range of styles in this game.