Ahh from the responses I skimmed, seems a lot of them talk about how you betrayed your wife or whatever.
She will get over it. thing is, if your marriage was unstable enough that this disrupts things, maybe it is time to move on. My wife and I divorced partially cause of who I am and while it does suck sometimes not having a partner, at least I can move on in life as I see fit without someone nagging.
See here is the problem - You can't tell a potential girlfriend/wife cause she won't like you. But then when you wait, all the sudden you "betrayed" or some crap.
Well then, when the hell you suppose to explain this?
And in your case, so you like to dress in private and try to not involve others. How the hell they suppose to hold that against you? Is a person not suppose to have a private life at all?
When an unaccepting wife finds out, I find it interesting how they are not upset by the dressing, but by the "betrayal" Oh bull, they are upset by the dressing more than anything. If she had found out you had a gambling problem say, that would be a different story.
You dressed in private, you didn't try to force it on anyone, you didn't write off responsibility like work or family for this. You did nothing wrong.
