A Simple Question...

[busker]

I think it is because we upset the apple cart. If we look halfway decent then straight men have mixed feelings towards the woman they see if they realize that woman is actually a man. We threaten their sexual bearings. Rather than being their problem, they put the blame on us for creating those confusing thoughts they're having.

That's my opinion at least for this moment.

This is my feeling exactly. It throws people off, because we are always looking for a reference point. People need those signals to differentiate and when they see a guy looking as good as a gal, they are not only embarrased that they made an identification error, but they may feel that someone has tricked them into a "gay" situation. Also, at least from those memebrs who post here from other countries, it seems to be a world-wide feeling.

I remember many years ago when I was in Europe, I was walking behind two girls with long blond hair, their walk was feminine, they had long coats on as it was winter so the slacks fit in my mental image, but all of a sudden they turned around and were 2 young guys that were a bit androgenous but I was just caught off guard by the long blond hair, and made the supposition that they were indeed girls.

We haven't moved much from that "scarry place" in society. The other problme I think is that gays have sort of spoiled it for everyone in the sense that they were seen as effiminate and so society thinks of crossdressers as gays, and though they made great strides in acceptance, they are not home free yet. We are guilty by association, and the interenet hasn't helped. Look up crossdresser and what do get--porn sites galore, showing mostly gay activity of "trannies" "********" etc. So even the nicest among us is going to get tagged as ---you name it. It was a long time before I found this forum on the internet and in my search I went through a lot of portals and probably felt about myself the same as many people feel about us before figuring out that cd's weren't really part of that group..

Also, people don't understand, the same way we don't always understand our own motivations. I feel perfectly comfortable in my clothes and would wear them outside if society was different but we are a long way from a society that is not only tolerant but accepting. We just have to accept that as fact, venture out if it is safe and necessary.

As an afterthought maybe we should just wear a pink X as a shoulder patch and when we dress to go out, just add the patch to our clothing.!!!


It would be nice to have CD colonies, something like nudist colonies, where a person could spend a week enjoying but out of the vue of society at large. Maybe even a ship cruise that is exclusely CD.