I was going to ask about this- specifically if itś the dressing which is accepted or bothersome or the presentation as a female- you know going out of your / our way to actually resemble a female instead of a man wearing female clothing. A bit off topic- I of course would like to achieve the feminine appearance. more than the actual dressing. If I could seem female in all male clothes that would not bother me at all! On the other hand, I get upset to the extent that I still seem male and thus ¨ugly" so the wig and presentable makeup skills make me feel better about myself. Recently my wife has begun to purchase and use makeup which she has never done before. I am wondering if it is a subtle invite to improve my own meager skills or if getting better at it would just be upsetting to her. Yes, I know need to have a conversationg about this but getting the lay of the land as it seems to others is always a prelude to such conversations for me.