Quote Originally Posted by Joanne f View Post
Once you put on a wig and wake up you change your identity and some just do not want to see a different person it instantly makes them feel uncomfortable which can be quite understandable yet on the other hand some are happier to see someone different as it gives them lesser of a connection to that person so they can cope with it more .
I was going to ask about this- specifically if itś the dressing which is accepted or bothersome or the presentation as a female- you know going out of your / our way to actually resemble a female instead of a man wearing female clothing. A bit off topic- I of course would like to achieve the feminine appearance. more than the actual dressing. If I could seem female in all male clothes that would not bother me at all! On the other hand, I get upset to the extent that I still seem male and thus ¨ugly" so the wig and presentable makeup skills make me feel better about myself. Recently my wife has begun to purchase and use makeup which she has never done before. I am wondering if it is a subtle invite to improve my own meager skills or if getting better at it would just be upsetting to her. Yes, I know need to have a conversationg about this but getting the lay of the land as it seems to others is always a prelude to such conversations for me.