How to come out?

[Nick2Nikki]

This isn't really on topic, but I just have to make this comment. One of the more common topics of discussion on this forum is "Why doesn't society accept us?" the most commonly accepted answer is that we are not really out there where others can see that we're just normal people, like everyone else. But, then there are threads like this, where the common advice is "Don't tell anyone you don't have to." Wait, why is it that society doesn't accept us again!? (Pretend that's an interrobang.)

This certainly isn't a problem with just the transgendered community, but rather a problem with society at large. For instance, take voting. One person's vote does almost nothing to affect the outcome of an election, so the amount of reward for cost of voting (standing in line, etc.) is very great for the reward. So, logically, a person should just stay home and not vote at all. This type of thinking makes sense, but what if everyone thought that way? Then there would be very low voter turnout, and the person you didn't want getting into office suddenly becomes president.

In the same way the crossdressing community is practicing selfish thinking; sure it's best for you to stay hidden, but it's worse for the community as a whole. If everyone stays inside, then society will never accept us. On the other hand, if all of us were entirely truthful about ourselves, and made ourselves visible to society, we each might be individually persecuted, but in the long run the crossdressing community would become more visible, and finally more accepted. So, while it may be in your best interests to hide, what about the interests of other crossdressers, now and in the future? Sure you can say someone else will do it, but what if everyone else thought the way you did?

"Be the change that you want to see in the world." -Mahatma Gandhi


On a more related note, I didn't ever really hide my crossdressing, so I haven't really "come out" to many people. If someone asks if I crossdress, I say yes. If I see someone I know in public while I'm crossdressed, I don't avoid them. I don't make a big deal of it, because it isn't a big deal. Hopefully, when others see that I don't consider it a big deal, they'll understand that it really isn't a big deal.