I'm going to make a generalization here and wonder out loud whether women are generally not accepting of men being cders because why would anyone in their right mind want to emulate a "second class" citizen?
women here, and around the world have been treated so badly in the past and are still treated badly in many places that their initial reaction is unconscious of the fact that their so has decided to be a 2nd class citizen.
I don't need to state the kinds of derogatory remarks that we have all heard or made in our lives. If a women looks at her man, she thinks that HE is the 1st class citizen that maybe she wants to emulate. The accepting women maybe have a higher opinion of themselves that those who reject a cder.
Otherwise, it seems hard to think why , in some way, a woman wouldn't be a little flattered by her man's interest in feminine things--after all, she is a woman, right?
so, is it self-loathing at some level?
why do we hate winners and successful people--is it because we are not them?
It can't be because we like to wear panties--they are actually more comfortable than men's underwear generally.
also, I think that clothes are awash in sexual messages, and that may also make women uncomfortable. there are a number of us who have gynecomastia and while it could be fun to wear a low cut sweater, it would be sending a really bad signal to a lot of folks who would see us. So while I have the boobs, I am not allowed to show them, because of the sexual signals and perhaps competition. Last summer when it was hot here, I wore t-shirts but my boobs were quite prominent and prior to my growth, the women nearby would chat me up, but more then ignored me when they saw my boobs.
Like crossdressing itself, there may be a great number of hidden issues that we may not discover.:2c:
