That's me too.
I didn't really know about my crossdressing tillwe had been married for 10 years. Looking back, I can see the pattern now, but.... I didn't really want to dress up fully untill about 2004 & then it went full tilt.
She has been as understanding as she can be and far more than I ever thought. She loves me for who I am, but wishes I didn't want to do this.
We love each other with all our flaws & failings. I wouldn't have it any other way.