What's your situation?1. Accepts, 2.Knows, but not accept 3.Does not know

[katesometimes]

Married 25 years, wife has known for most of them. She accepts to a degree, but I think she considers it more of a fetish thing in my case.

[Stephanie47]

Knows and is not accepting. It's DADT If she knew how many feminine garments I have, she would probably freak out.

[Evelyn_SF]

Hi friends,
I am new - this is my 2nd post.
Like so many of you, I have been dressing since I was a teen (13) starting in my Mother's extensive boudoir.
I have never been able to completely escape this facet of my personality and the immeasurable pleasure and joy it brings to my heart and mind. That being said, I am 46 and closeted. My wife does not know and I have been secure in this secret.

I have a very good job that allows me to to telecommute. As of the past year, I have been dressing several times a week whle my spouse is at work. This allows me to be Evelyn, feel like Evelyn, indulge in Evelyn and improve her appearance.

I do have balance in this and an understanding of myself - but of course some part of me really longs to be totally transparent and free of the encumberments of secrecy. There are just a few too many issues in my life that prevent this currently, but some day I hope to be able to be Evelyn openly.

I appreciate this forum as it gives me and all of us a chance to really express these intimate thoughts.

Evelyn

[Chastitycd]

I have a great wife of 3 years now who not only knows, accepts, and supports, but helps. Without her I would be lost. Not only is she my wife but shes the best friend I could ever ask for!

[Kali]

We've been together almost 9 years, getting married this summer.

The serious interest developed since we have been together. My fiancee is actively supportive, picking the name I use, shopping and buying clothes for and with me, and making acccomodations to our lives to allow me this freedom to express who I am.

[BRANDYJ]

Hi friends,
I am new - this is my 2nd post.
Like so many of you, I have been dressing since I was a teen (13) starting in my Mother's extensive boudoir.
I have never been able to completely escape this facet of my personality and the immeasurable pleasure and joy it brings to my heart and mind. That being said, I am 46 and closeted. My wife does not know and I have been secure in this secret.
I have a very good job that allows me to to telecommute. As of the past year, I have been dressing several times a week whle my spouse is at work. This allows me to be Evelyn, feel like Evelyn, indulge in Evelyn and improve her appearance.
I do have balance in this and an understanding of myself - but of course some part of me really longs to be totally transparent and free of the encumberments of secrecy. There are just a few too many issues in my life that prevent this currently, but some day I hope to be able to be Evelyn openly.
I appreciate this forum as it gives me and all of us a chance to really express these intimate thoughts.
Evelyn

First, welcome to the best site on the Internet for finding friends and support Evelyn. Glad you found us.
I would find it so hard to hide something so personal, so big a part of my life from the woman I love and that loves me. I know for some, it might be the the only way to stay married. For others, it's just their perception about how their wife might react if they shared this part of themselves with them. I feel sorry for those that feel they can't be open and honest with the one person that is supposed to love them through thick and thin. I think the worst part about hiding this, is when and if the wife finds out on her own and then feels so shocked, cheated, lied to. That scenerio usually die snot go well. So you will learn that most of the GG's here, as well as most of the CD's, believe that at some point you need to have that talk.
I wish you well my friend.

Wanted to add, I am not judging you or anyone else that feels the need to hide. At some point in our lives we all hid it from someone, if only our parents. I did from my first wife and remember the frustration it caused me for the 5 years that marriage lasted.

[Jamie48]

My Wife knows and accepts me but does not participate.

[Tina B.]

She knows! we have been married for 38 years, and I told her when it came on me five years into the marriage, I hadn't dressed in years, but things where stressful, and I found myself wanting to dress again, after years of not dressing. I had lost one wife to this, but was willing to risk losing another, but I'm terrible at lying, and not very good at keeping secrets from my love one, ( I don't Christmas shop until the last minute, so I'm not so tempted to show it to her early.) So for me it had to be come clean, and take my chances. She accepted me day one, not to say I didn't have to answer the standard questions. Back then I thought of myself as a Transvestite, never heard of crossdresser, but now, I think I might be a bit more. either that or old age, and loss of hormones, has just brought it all out more. I never know what people mean by participate, she shops for me, gives me gifts like perfume, jewelry, and womens clothes, but I dress myself, by myself, I do my own hair and make up, and I pick the look. She on the other hand, tells me I look pretty, I like that outfit on you, that skirt is a bit short, and that sweater is a bit tight, type of things, and I love the input, and the complements. We watch fashion shows, and diss on the outfits we don't like, and we both like chick flicks. And that is all the participation I need! Oh, and occasionally she brings me flowers!
Tina B.

[Danielle Gee]

Hi Brandy:

I've been married to my Sweetie for 42 years and she's known of my CDing for thirty years or so . She's been very helpful and accepting. I love her soooooo much ii hurts somtimes!!!

Great post: Danielle