[SIZE="2"]I wrote this a while ago, so bear with me…[/SIZE]Originally Posted by James Koan
[SIZE="2"]Being gay is NOT a problem, but MtF crossdressers are considered to be purveyors of alternative sexuality and perversion, thus aligning them with homosexuals, according to the agreed-upon parameters of accepted normality. Homosexuals are tolerated by society, to a certain extent, but they are not accorded equal rights under the law – the ongoing debate about gay marriage is the best example of what I’m talking about…But one thing that has come up quite alot is the link to homosexuality. I think I am probably guilty of this too but currently dont worry about it. I guess I just want to ask the question, if you are not gay, and you wear girls clothes, why is it important to state your sexuality (i am not attacking anyone here, I think I have done the same thing to my friend when I told her about it)? Is it because it may limit your/our options or is it because it would be another level of prejudice we do not want to have to endure?
I think I have replied to a thread already something on these lines, but was truly curious as to why it is such an issue that needs stating? Surely, whether a fetish or a gender thing or whatever it is, this is the most safe place to NOT be pigeon holed?
I guess this has prob been asked b4, but as I have always felt ok with gays or straight, I was curious as to why I needed to say that i was not gay! For gods sake, my friend does not worry if I am straight!!!!!
You, as an MtF crossdresser, may be assumed to be gay – it’s the easiest explanation for people who do not care to see, hear, feel, or tolerate differences. Distinctions rule the day, and weakness is targeted without question – it’s not fair, but this is what you’re up against. You’ll spend a lot of time arguing that you’re NOT gay, simply because people equate overt effeminacy with homosexuality. Your MtF crossdressing is an expression of effeminacy, like it or not, so this is the cross you’ll have to bear along your continuing journey into the unknown…
I also object to this mandatory “declaration” of one’s sexuality – not only is it unnecessary and intrusive, but it implies that there’s something wrong with being different in terms of accepted sexuality, as outlined by society. I mean, who says? Who cares? On one hand you’re supposed to conform, and on the other hand you’re encouraged to “be all you can be,” as long as your idea of “being” is pre-approved, that is. The only important thing to do is live your life like a human being, and you get to decide what that amounts to…[/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]I may very well swing that way, but I swing back. I get dizzy easily, however…[/SIZE]
