Quote Originally Posted by Frédérique View Post
You, as an MtF crossdresser, may be assumed to be gay – it’s the easiest explanation for people who do not care to see, hear, feel, or tolerate differences. Distinctions rule the day, and weakness is targeted without question – it’s not fair, but this is what you’re up against. You’ll spend a lot of time arguing that you’re NOT gay, simply because people equate overt effeminacy with homosexuality. Your MtF crossdressing is an expression of effeminacy, like it or not, so this is the cross you’ll have to bear along your continuing journey into the unknown…
Frederique, help me out here. Are you saying that because people assume crossdressers are gay, and that I am a crossdresser, I must accept that I may be considered gay? And that's the way it is, that's the cross I have to bear? Of all people, folks on this forum should better understand the differences between sex and gender and the different ways they are expressed. Why would we passively allow others to continue to believe what we know to be true: there isn't a connection between crossdressing and homosexuality? A person can be one, the other, both, or neither. Why can't we say what we are?
Saying that I am not gay (or, as some prefer, I am straight) is not a mandatory declaration but an optional one. It is necessary, for those who think it is, and is not intrusive. Sure, it may be irrelevant to the topic at hand, but it can easily be blown off and ignored. No need to take offense.
Rianna, making a simple statement that I am not gay is certainly not ramming my sexuality down your throat. Stop the hyperbole, please.
Wanting people (who may assume I am gay because I crossdress) to understand that I am straight is not homophobia. Just trying to keep the issues (cd & gay) separate, as they are.