Thanks for the advice Windy. Wearing sunglasses out initially might ease my nervousness.Originally Posted by windycissy
Thanks for the advice Windy. Wearing sunglasses out initially might ease my nervousness.
A good beginning would be to post a pic(s) on this thread! And, see what the girls say!?
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Disclaimer: I hope you are asking for some honesty here. I am trying to be kind, and this is just my opinion.
When I see your pictures you are dressed very provocative. How many GGs do you see that are dressed that way? It is not common. Many times as CDers we like to dress as to what is sexy to us. This becomes a stereotype for us. If you want to be out, without becoming a blinking sign, you will have to dress a little more conservative. I personally like to dress so as to blend. I know I don't pass. Does everyone stare? No. I get a few looks. I get, what I think is a lot of, "Was that a guy or a girl?" I will take that, and with honors. That is good enough for me. I am working on passing better, and with time, I think I get better.
If you are wanting to be out just to enjoy yourself then you have to just not care what other people think. So what if people think you are a "freak". You are having fun, and doing what you want to do. If you are just wanting to be out, dress how you want. Go, enjoy!!
I hope you understand where I am coming from, and this is meant with sincerity and not meant in anyway as derogatory.
I've got to pretty much agree with a lot of what has been posted. If you attempt to blend your chances of getting outed are greatly reduced. My first time out I wore a pencil skirt with a nice blouse and blended quite well. But I had a lot of mannerisms to learn. Did I pass? Yes and no. But that's ok, I'm getting there.
The only way to know if you're passable is to do something in public around other people. Lots of great advice has already been posted in this thread. I would just add, like others have said in this and other threads, that being confident and acting like you belong will go very, very far in "passing".
It's been my experience that if you don't call attention to yourself (by dressing inappropriately for the setting and/or acting like you're an impostor), then people won't notice you. Believe me, I go out a lot fully dressed and if I perceive myself as doing something "wrong" or trying to fool everyone, I'll get all sorts of scrutiny. But if I embrace the mantra "head up, smile, and be confident", then I rarely notice any attention. It really is amazing how this works. I never, ever worry about "passing". Instead, I do my very best to look and carry myself in a feminine manner.
In nursing school one of the girls said that she saw a lady who was just to feminine to be a real girl. She said the person looked like a woman but had to be a guy because of this. I guess you can walk the walk a little to well and still be read. Billie Jean
Lets face it girls, we were not born female. At some point in time no matter how hard we try, we will be read. That being said, just be yourself, show your confidence, look and act like you belong there, noone will say a word about you unless they are a complete jerk. Get out there and have fun with it!!!
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Remain still, and if people move beyond your location, you're passable.
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Well here is a couple pics. let me know....
There's no real way for us to know if you are truly passable on pictures alone (although you do look good in your pics) ... and even if your picture doesn't do you justice and you look even better in "real life" you can still give yourself away by your body movements, gestures and deportment etc.
My advice would be to go to a TG support group and "ease your way into it". First time out it's good to have other CDers around you then if you're feeling confident, next time you go to the meeting, do a little window shopping before the meeting .... you know, build up your public exposure more and more as you get more and more confident. Before you know it, you'll be shopping for dresses and interacting with the public like you've been doing it all your life!
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I think if u go to TG/gay friendly club, you'll be FINE, PH! At least, in THAT outfit and with THAT demeanor!
I WOULDN'T think you'll pass at Macys, tho! Lol!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
You have gotten a lot of good responses already! But no one has given you the only one that matters!! If you want to know if you are passable, LOOK IN THE MIRROR!! If you see a female than yes you are passable. If you don't.......well there is a problem!!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
if you make out actnomel and no will know the diff. but if you act out of place pople will know some thing diff.
I love the pics. You look great. I think you might be able to pass. Billie Jean
There is only one real test, no other test will give you as good of results, The test is, open the door to your house, and walk out, go to the mall and go shopping (even window shopping will work) looking in windows, allows you to watch the reflection and watch what people behind you are doing, if no one is standing there laughing, or threating you, you pass. Just remember, if you plan to go out, you have to accept the fact that no one passes all the time. you will get made, sooner or later, so you have to be ready to deal with it.
Tina B.
If your hands aren't large enough to crush a human skull, you're not so tall that you hit your head on door jambs, not so muscular that you make juicers look bad, your Adams apple is not so pronounced it looks like you swallowed a beach ball, and nose is not so long that Pinocchio would laugh, then I'd say you are potentially passable.
I'd never pass, I'm a freaking Amazon with a long nose. People won't laugh at me, they'll run away in terror!
I haven't seen any pics of you, I don't know if you are passable. I wouldn't tell you anyway because I wouldn't want to offend you if you weren't. Go somewhere TG friendly first. Get honest opinions and tips from the girls there before you venture out to pass properly. Otherwise, roll the dice and be prepared for people to run in terror! "AAAAAAAAaaaaagh!"
Ginger
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