I can't remember the exact reference now, but there was a very good thread a while back about why sometimes an SO will seem to blow hot and cold in this way. You only came out to her a month ago, so her feelings are probably still in turmoil, don't push. Don't try to bargain her into acceptance "I accepted your false eye so you've got to accept my cross-dressing" it doesn't work like that. Above all, don't accuse her of lying or of being irrational.
Listen to your wife's feelings more than to her words. You have had a lifetime to come to the point you are now and I will bet that you had mixed feelings about it on more than one occasion. This is the time for you to show understanding and to support your wife in coming to terms with her feelings.
