My only advice to you is not to take advice. My marriage (or anyone else here) has no bearing on yours. Regardless if we are all happy, it cannot make you happier. Or if we are secretly miserable, it does nothing to ease your potential pain or confusion.
Sadly in life we only normally figure out the answers when we are too old to make use of the wisdom or knowledge.
The answer you seek can only be found by you and your spouse.
As an FYI, my wife is mildly accepting and we've had many similar discussions. All we know for sure is that we love each other and value our life together. Fairytales are in
books and not life. So we live our lives and try to live a little in-between.
