Well, my most candid thought is "What, are you nuts?!"
"And last, you feel the jealousy is your wife's problem and not yours" - This is self contradicting. In any marriage even approaching "healthy" if it is a problem for your wife, it IS by definition a problem for you.
Why would someone continue to push down that road when the wife repeatedly made it clear that it made her intensely uncomfortable?
You can argue all day long abut whether the wife's feelings and attitude were reasonable or not, but that's entirely beside the point. It hurt her and thats what matters.
