Rather than crucify you I would like to do some sort of mind fusion with you to help you understand the psyche of a trangendered person. Perhaps you would realize that to many of us our feminine experience is quite real. Not all of us are just men playing dress up.
I'm not even a transexual, I'm just a crossdresser, but to me my female side is just as real and fundamentally important to my personality as my male side is.
Not all crossdressing is a result of male driven activities, for some of us it's simply one of the ways the woman inside expresses herself.