.................................................. .................................................. ...........GG anonymous reply
One thing people/CDers have to realize is that there are many levels of acceptance for GGs. Everything from walking out the door when you find out to the SO that supports, encourages and participates. (and beyond, I guess) Every woman that makes it to this site is amazing and wonderful. Not just the women that are on the far end of the spectrum. If a woman has come to this site, she is trying to find more information about cding, trying to find support, trying to wrap her head around the concept, trying to find hope, because they love their SO more than anything. So, yes, I think EVERY woman that makes it to this site is an amazing, wonderful and loving woman.
My rule of thumb is as follows. If I wouldn't want my husband to see what I posted in the MTF forum, then I shouldn't post it. There are some cders that come to this forum and post things they ought to be ashamed of and then try to make themselves feel better by attacking someone who has called their attention to the ill-worded/disrespectful post. Or, sometimes, it seems they want to treat this forum as their own little fantasy world and don't want it to be intruded on. So, they get angry when confronted by a GG that calls them on it and then attacks them in the post or PMs. Too bad, so sad. Live with it. We do.
Some have asked for clarification of the thread hope this helps.
The thread is not about the support that we the GGs get.
People come here looking for support and advise, and when a GG chimes in and disagrees then she is jumped on just because she doesn't agree and don't say that doesn't happen because it has happened to me.
If you look you will see that it is the same GGs who post. We have around 100 GGs in the FAB forum, not all are active and a lot just read but out of those who are active, say they won't post in the main forum because of the attitude of some of the replies they get.
One thing that does come across is that if a GG is not fully accepting, and she replies and again disagrees, she is slammed as being non accepting.
Again this is not about the support the GGs get, but the support that is offered and then when the GGs disagree it's thrown back in our faces.
