Given the chance I would hop on the operating table for SRS in a heartbeat. If I knew back in the late sixties what I know now my life would have been much different. True I wouldn't be a real woman but at least my mind would match my body and I would have the confidence to deal with all the shortcomings SRS would bring along with it.
Still, women do have more fluidity to their gender expression than men do... I love the thought of being able to wear high heeled boots one day and cargo pants the next if I felt like it. But still, SRS is too hard and then you can't have kids after it. And besides, I'd be a pretty bitchy, kind of masculine woman anyway.Originally Posted by NathalieX66
There's too many existing components to my persona to resort to being one gender only.
I cannot be happy being male.
I cannot be happy being female.
So I'll be both.
gender fluid this is called...works for me.
I agree with another one of the posters here, if I knew what I know now back then, I would have dropped ol' willy and made the change. The resources for learning were too scarce and now, it's like night and day. However, seeing my biological replacements for the first time sure is a great feeling. You look into their eyes and I swear you can see God.
On the other hand, you don't know what you've got til its gone. Through out my life, I've taken for granted soo many things and when I lose them, I sure do miss them.
This isn't much of an answer, but its what I'm thinkin' at the moment...
Renne.....
No, I like being a man... but like dressing up in girl clothes
Funny, I just had a total knee replacement surgery six weeks ago. The whole time I was being wheeled into the "OR" I was thinking of wishing it was "SRS". I am married now for the second time but deep down inside I want to transition. After my surgery the thought of crossdressing or "SRS" never entered my mind. Now it's back again stronger than ever. I often wish I could experience my life as a girl growing up, with my period, proms, and first kiss. And the thought of being married and the honeymoon and having a hot night of sex pleasing my husband make me melt inside. And feeling him penetrating me makes me moan with pleasure.
So yes I would love to transition......
Robyn
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I wish I had been born a woman and I don't enjoy my masculine side anymore but I'm such a health nut that I wouldn't do anthing with risky side effects. About 10 years I really thought I needed to try hormones but I've been able to keep fighting back the urge. I'd like a more feminine body but I don't hate my male organ and can't ever see having SRS.
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Omg I hate my male organ and would love to fill out a one piece swimsuit without that equipment down there. Nothing like wanting to kiss a man in a wet bathing suit and feeling the warmth. Wow I am so naughty, lol
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This was the truth I had to face up to before I was ready to give up the pretence of being a man and accept who I really am.
To answer the OP's question,I don't "want to be" a woman, I am a woman and I want to be at peace with myself.
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This above all: To thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any
Galileo said "You cannot teach a man anything" and they accuse ME of being sexist :facepalm:
Never ascribe to malice that which can be easily explained by sheer stupidity
I used to think it was incongruent to want to be female, but with the condition that I be an attractive one; no longer. Pretty much all women go to great lengths to be as attractive as possible, and some make up person once said that there are no ugly women, only lazy ones. I'd be very happy to be an average young female, with the figure and all the female bone structure to make myself as pretty as possible. But becoming a middle aged collosal female with male bone structure? No thanks. Same here with my clown size feet, too. The voice thing? There's a couple of guys on youtube that teach how to alter your voice; it's not easy, but it is possible. I was curious, so I tried it; it takes a lot of practice, and it certainly doesn't feel natural when your doing it (although perhaps if you do it all day long, it gets easier) Problem is, you'll eventually 'slip' back into using your normal male voice every once in a while, and the contrast is startling.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
oh yeah!!
my only regret is that i didn't do it 30 years ago
I don't want to be a woman except when I feel like being a woman. Then I hate to think I'm displaying any vestige of my masculinity. Likewise when I'm a guy I hate to feel that I'm showing any part of my feminine side. It feels so schizo sometimes, but I guess that's just the way I've dealt with being who I am all these years.
no..............................................
I began to have complete interest in being a women very late in life. When the "EX" discovered my clovetity we needless to say had some discussions. She asked the same question ( I had not thought of it) so I said flippantly, if I were 30 yrs younger I'd consider it. Well then and there I think the divorce had occurred. She is with me these days for helping w/cateract surgery and I am fully attired as Ms Dianne,what else can happen? Oh by the by this weekend its raining and it willbe the eighth or ninth weekend straigth of foul weather,
Lets analyze this statement for a minute. Years have passed, sure. Family obligations? Sure. "It's not financially feasible to have surgery". What? So regardless of anything else, years, family, it comes down to money? As in "forget everything else, if I had the cash, zip bang I'd have SRS tomorrow". Reassing our personal goals is something most transgendered folks need to do from time to time. I think you should take a look at yours.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but that statement really struck me. You said a lot in your post, but you ended it with....your bank account. Of course I wish you the best no matter what =).
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Crysten
"Addicted to Victoria's Secret".
Oh H#ll no! For me that sounds horrible. I mean...can you Imagine? Gad! I'd never want to give up my rationality nor my...well...you know.
Would I? What do you mean..................I am a WOMAN!
“Sex” refers to a person’s genitalia and secondary sex characteristics. Each individual is born with either male or female genitalia, or a combination of both. I do not wish to change my sex.
"Gender" refers to the "socially constructed" roles, behaviors, activities, and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women, and therefore are naturally unrelated to biological sex. As I understand the term, I cannot change my gender.
"Gender Identity" represents a person’s core sense of being male, female, or within a continuum that exists between male and female. I like my gender identity just the way it is, androgynous, both male and female at the same time.
"I am Yin & Yang, North & South, Night & Day, Feminine & Masculine" [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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Great topic. Myself? No. I enjoy the man side of me as well as the CDing side of me.
To all the ladies who have had replied; I have enjoyed reading your comments and appreciate everything you have said.
Hello Crysten. I have been married over 20 years to a fine woman who accepts my crossdressing and we have a wonderful relationship concerning family and finances. I am eligible to draw social security and my wife and I have a son who is a junior in college and a daughter who will be entering college in the fall. Let me share a couple of REAL WORLD concepts:
1. At my age I pass well enough to be accepted as Annie.
2. When I am dressed I feel very feminine and satified with how I present myself.
3. I plan on retired once our kids get out of college, in 4 or 5 years.
4. Looking at the longevity of my parents, I have about 20-25 more years to go.
5. Investing $25,000 to $40,000 for SRS and taking the money out of my retirement fund is not wise or prudent and especially unfair to my wife because it is her money too.
No it doesn't boil down to my banking account; it boils down to using my retirement and measuring the cost versus reward.
I might try the voice thing at some point; thanks for the tip.
To say that unattractive women are just lazy I don't think is fair though; I've seen plenty of women who looking good is effortless for, and others who couldn't be helped by anything short of radical plastic surgery. Plus, as I'm learning now, your body typically has an ideal weight it wants to be at; lose too much weight and you'll feel like you're starving 24/7. Sucks, but what can you do?
If there were no troubles with changing tio a woman, just take a magic pill and bam done.
Nope, I would still rather be the same man that I am now. I enjoy being a man, and I enjoy even more getting to wear wiomans clothes sometimes. If I had to wear them all the time, I am afraid that the enjoyment would go away.
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
Sometimes my mind thinks, OMG yes, and other times it says what are you nuts. / For me I think it is all about finding out how the Women live and to know those experiences. So yes and no. I would love to know and if I liked it then I could answer this question.
But truthfully, I would love to be able to switch back and forth but I suspect If I had that choice I would remain mostly female.
Keri
Gosh, this is a hard one to answer truthfully. I have put off answering till I could honestly say yay or nay, In my heart and brain I feel more inline with being female than male, just the twins let me know that my body is male. I have many mood swings and they seem to increase in frequency as the moon rises and appears at its brightest. I feel that to be a woman was what I should have been, but I was directed towards many male things that now have faded with time.
In answering this question: Yes I want to be a woman...Minus (pregnancy + Period). Would I be totally accepted by the sisterhood, no because as my mother says, you cannot give life as you have no uterus. Yes, that hurts.
I would love to live as a woman 27/7.at my age like you it wouldn't be feasible to have surgery and my wife wouldn't care for the idea at all.
Angie
I posted a while a back ago on this thread.
My advice for every single one of you to is meet & know someone who has gone down the full route.
Make friends with them , the knowledge is well worth it.
I found my place. I like me as I am, I do not need chemical, pharmaceutical, or surgical intervention, however permanent hair removal notwithstanding. That's me and me only. Anyone can fantasize where they'd like to be, but going through the motions of transition is pretty heavy stuff. It can be done, and the results will provide happiness for the right people....i've seen it.
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