When we confess our desire to wear women's clothing to our SO either before or after marriage or the relationship that we mutually agree to enter, one of the first questions we are asked is, "Do you want to be a woman?"
I guess everyone really needs to explore this issue and be truthful about it. Lying about this will hurt both parties involved.
As for me, I am transitioning full-time, because I have explored the issue and that's what I want to do.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.