Here's the difference, I CD in my day to day life. Painting/sewing/biking are all things one specifically sets aside time to do. There are some people on this board for whom CDing is like that as well, and that's how I was before I came out. But now, I'm out, I'm openly a CD. While I do still wear men's clothes, I do it interchangeably with women's clothes. Aside from when I'm at work at my day-job and have to dress according to my store's dress codes, I spend a good chunk of my life wearing skirts and tights and makeup and such. That's just how I dress now. See my avatar? That's a picture of me doing stand up comedy, my career, in a dress.
So, a SO who refused to be involved with my crossdressing would either want to not be around me for the majority of my free time, or want me to put myself at least partially back in the closet so to speak. Neither option sounds like the makings of a very healthy relationship, for her or me.
It'd be like if I met a girl who was really into her tattoos and showing them off, and I said "Well I'm fully supportive of your tattoos and your need to get more of them and show them to people, but please, don't ask me to be involved when you do."





