I guess what it boils down to is where your true love is!! Is it for your crossdressing, or for your wife? Sounds to me like you don't really know!! BTW, you have already told her that you can't stop crossdressing whcih is not true!! You can stop, but only if YOU WANT TO!! And from your OP, you don't want to! So back to where your love is the strongest, wife or crossdressing??