That was a really good summary, Reine. Very fairly stated.
Really? Thanks for the heads up.Originally Posted by Julogden
I could name some others that are also BIG issues: being bipolar, having obsessive compulsive disorder, having borderline personality disorder, having intimacy issues, having trust issues, having severe sexual hang ups, being co-dependent, having a narcissistic personality, and, umm... what's the scientific name for just generally being a jerk? There seem to be a lot of people who suffer from that one.
You get the point, though, right?
That would be reasonable if we knew that we didn't know. I identified as 100% male when I got married. That little hobby I occasionally indulged was not who I was, as far as I was concerned. (For the record, I still identify as about 80% male, on average. Sometimes it drops lower, but on the whole I'm still a guy.)it is reasonable to say that we ought to work through them to the point of knowing who we are and what we want before getting married.
Trust me, it's small potatoes compared to the issues my father had. There are far worse things than husbands who crossdress. "Anger management issues" sounds like such a polite term, doesn't it? Try living with someone who walks around with a big ball of rage inside him, and very little self-control.It's not like having different tastes in music or some other trivial difference. It's a very big, hairy issue to most people.
My example was drawn from the OP. The word you used was "tricked" which suggests a conscious intention to deceive. Perhaps you would like to withdraw the word though. I won't hold you to it, if it was just a bad word choice.You're twisting my words with your example.
