Okay, I know now why this comment upset me. I wasn't sure at first but after thinking about it for awhile I realized that first line hit me like a slap. I don't know if you meant it this way, but it really feels like you think that looking like a woman is somehow demeaning. That women are less than men and by "dressing like a girl" you are presenting an image of yourself in a much lesser capacity than you are known by your family and friends.
I'm not judging you or even wagging my finger, because I was also brought up to believe that the worse thing you can be is something less than a man. It just made me sad to see it articulated by one of my TG sisters.
Unless I'm totally just projecting, and in that case ...nevermind. '-)