Role reversal in marriage

[pinto]

Pinto, it sounds to me like your feminine self is one which feels liberated from responsibilities, that you need that time where you don't have to worry about other pressures, decisions and life issues more and more than you used to. Is there something that is triggering this craving to shed responsibilities? Sometimes a response this strong is in regards to a strongly stressful trigger that is happening in your life somewhere, and it might be better for your mental health in the long run to discover what that is and deal with it directly rather than just the symptoms?

Yes Babeba you are right. My feminine side wants to be liberated from responsibilities. I don't know if there is a trigger but my feminine personality wants to be a kind of a "traditional woman" only caring for her husband and his needs. My needs are the urges to please him. I know it's not fashion today anymore but just let me be as I am. I understand my bio-wife to be my husband. My experiences are that her decisions always were the best so why don't let her make all the decisions. I will will do my part and that is please her with all my strength.

[Meredy]

Even though my wife and I are in fact in such a relationship she refuses to see it. She only wears levis, has her hair short, fails to pick up anything around the house and generally acts like a guy (it seems has all those 'guy' bad habits anyway). She doesn't own any cosmetics much less use them. I on the other hand: wash dishes, cook, clean the laundry, vacuum, shop for the groceries, and all of the necessary household duties.

While she weakly suggests that she doesn't like my hair long, she doesn't complain about my dressing but is terribly nonsupporting of it, her depressing attitude sometimes is overwhelming. I have more femme clothes than she does, I have more bras, and panties, more high heels, hose etc. She is quite 'butch' in many ways.

This is very close to my situation

[brandi.tgurl]

I have often fantasized about finding a partner who presents as male, but is a genetic girl. And, I could present as a female, but remain a genetic boy. Part of this, is I would love to be able to express myself as the female i fell inside me so often.. but being born with male parts... it would be important to me to be able to have children with my partner. As far as roles, I tend to have some androgynous tendencies... and lucky for me, my SO does also. While she doesn't identify as male in any way that I can tell, or that we've discussed... she is supportive, encouraging, and accepting of my dressing - and femininity. This has been one of the single most refreshing and important aspects of our relationship. I am just has excited to present as a lesbian couple with her as I used to fantasize about reversing roles.

[pinto]

I have often fantasized about finding a partner who presents as male, but is a genetic girl. And, I could present as a female, but remain a genetic boy.

wow Brandi, that's a very good phantasy. I also would love that. Unfortunately i haven't found that woman yet.

[susmitha]

wow Brandi, that's a very good phantasy. I also would love that. Unfortunately i haven't found that woman yet.

i agree very much with brandi and pinto.

[susmitha]

I am wondering if there are any amongst us who are living in a role reversal in marriage. Whether were both are crossdressers or at least living just with reversed roles without crossdressing???

i have read pinto's posts 1, 39 and 51. this is my dream (but only occasionally, not permanently). when i dress as a woman, she should dress as a man. then i will consider her as the actual male partner and husband and i will allow her to treat me as a real woman and wife. we will live in completely reversed roles in the bed room and outside the bed room, but only privately, when both are crossdressed.