First of all if you are a cross-dresser you ARE transgendered, because the term 'transgender' is an umbrella terminology
that includes cross-dressers or transvestites, drag kings & queens, gender queer androgynies, transsexuals & intersexuals.
And do you know how many 'transsexuals' I know of that before they stopped repressing their gender issues
that have said - "I know I am a male because I have a male body complete with all the bits to go with it!".
I was one of those people who kept battling GID & repressing my issues until I was 47 years old! but the big
surprise to me was to find out only last year that I am NOT XY at all - I was born intersex! WTF?
So hun, please understand that I am not trying to put you down when I say this, but you really do have a lot to learn!
You need to learn to understand the full dynamics of gender identity & sexual orientations before you start putting
labels like this on yourself because so far a lot of what you said does ring alarm bells with me that you 'might' be a
transsexual! And trust me as you get older this will only get worse until you reach a crisis point like many of us have.