I don’t tell people what they “should” or "should not" do. But I can give you my perspective on this. When a minor is living under their parents’ roof, parents make the “rules” and the child is obligated to respect them. Once we become emancipated, strike out on our own physically and most importantly financially, the relationship between parent/child changes.

Our parents will always remain our parents, but they have also become two adults that we now interact with as adults.
We become an independent adult responsible for making all our own decisions and facing the consequences of those decisions. This includes any lifestyle changes that others, including our parents may not feel comfortable with, but can no longer control. (Although many parents persist in trying, lol).

The only “responsibility” we have is to decide which, if any of the parts of our lifestyle and behavior that others may disagree with, that we are willing to cater to.

Refusing to cater to other peoples’ manipulative strategies like guilt, “disrespect”, personal bias, threats, disloyalty, exploitation, isolation and other dysfunctional behavior is simply part of everyday life and interacting with people. Deciding not to cater to such manipulation places the “burden” of this “decision” where it logically belongs...on the people who view other peoples’ behavior as a dilemma. They can continue to accept us as we are, or choose to limit/discontinue their interaction with us.

The scenario you presented is a matter of personal choice. Personal choices are always influenced by our personal perceptions and bias formed from personal experiences. But they are still choices selected from a list of options.

I believe that everything that happens to me in life is to some degree, the result of some decision(s) I made somewhere along the way. This means I am always taking responsibility for my position in life, regardless of how I got there.

So, my answer to your “question” is no. I do not think in terms of what I “should” or “should not” do in life, particularly when it comes to people inclined to judge other peoples’ behavior in a court filled with their personal bias.