If you don't want to be female, why do you try to look like one. Just wear the clothes you like the feel and look as your male self and enjoy
What is inherently feminine about long hair? If men were indeed meant to wear short hair, would their hair not fall out after reaching a predetermined length? Much like a short haired cat, or dog?

What is inherently feminine about makeup?

My look in fem/androg mode is only feminine because I use many items that in our culture are feminine.

If a female, is not a fan of the "girly" look, and therefore takes a look that is more masculine, does that mean she wants to be male?

There are those that say something similar to the line you gave Randee. "well if you don't want to be a woman, then why wear women's clothing? Why don't you just act "nicer" and wear mens clothing?"

It is in the same vein of thinking (IMO) when a straight male (usually) says "I have no problem if a gay man wants to get married, as long as he marries a woman"

Yea, that is logical thinking there.