Ever wonder why a disproportinate number of trans girls are lesbian?

[Frances]

Because they were lesbians to begin with? Back to .... sexual orientation.

Speaking directly to your question, no - I never wondered. To me it just seemed obvious. One fact has verry little connection to the other so why would chaniging one effect the other? Statisics show red cars are faster. Does that mean if I paint my car red it will be faster? I think statistics would show a moderate chance of being born gay and a lesser chance of being born trans. Now how likely is it to be born both? Probably way less than either. So to me there is no surprise - it just makes sense.

But the premise given by Kate is that there is a disproportinate number. That may or may not be true, but most trans women I see at support groups are lesbian-identitifed. It is also possible that the stats are wrong and that hetero trans women do not go to support groups, do not post on forums and disappear into society?

Fear may also be a strong motivator. As a post-op woman interested in men, I am afraid of bringing a guy into my appartment (which needs to be trans-proofed) right now and show my genitals to him. I fear being read or found out. I recently fooled around with a guy and let him feel me up through my clothes. He seemed content with what he found, but would he have felt the same seeing my 7 month old neo-vagina? I can definitely see the advantage of being with a woman. It turns out that I am bi, so being with a woman makes things easier. However, there is the call of the wild. I overcame a lot of fears and changed my body. Now, I have to change my appartement and overcome the fear of intimacy with a man who would not know my trans status, as I don't intend on being out with every partner.