With how many sercet service dudes? right...Originally Posted by AKAMichelle
People notice everything. People definitely notice CD's in public. You may want to think people aren't noticing you, but they are. The question is - Does it matter to you?
With how many sercet service dudes? right...
People notice everything. People definitely notice CD's in public. You may want to think people aren't noticing you, but they are. The question is - Does it matter to you?
Maybe I'm lucky because I'm 5'6", but I never had a bad reaction in crowded shopping malls, movie theatre lobbies, restaurants, supermarkets, etc. So far I have been ignored........and that's exactly how I like it.
Anyone who want's to question if I'm a guy or a girl, fine.
Anyone who who has figured out the truth, fine....just be nice, that's all I ask.
I just want to add, both these statements are true. People do notice (when they take the time to look), and most don't care, just as any one of us won't care when we see any stranger that we believe looks out of the ordinary, what ever that might be to us. I mean, people don't get emotionally invested in someone they know they'll never see again.
The mistake, I think, is in many CDers believing they are not read. Very few CDs can pull off making others believe they are GG, especially when there is any form of interaction.
Last edited by ReineD; 10-14-2011 at 01:36 AM.
Reine
People have their own agenda and unless you interfere in some way with that agenda no ones cares. I am terrible at faces and often my GF would say "did you see who that was?" as someone walked by. I would have not even noticed an NBA basketball player. On the other hand I notice things while driving and she didn't. So it depends on your priorities. When I am out and dressed I want someone to notice otherwise I can just wear what I normally wear and be invisible
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Nez Perce
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
I have been going out in public for the past 6 years dressed totally enfemme, but otherwise looking like the man that I am. No wig and no makeup!! I go everywhere, malls, restaurants, post offices, and even to the doctors office, and no one ever pays any attention to me!! Of course the people in my doctor's office know I crossdress so naturally they don't care. Occasionally some person, usually a GG, will ask me where I got the outfit I am wearing! But that is about the only comments that I ever hear!! People just don't care, unless you look real wild!!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
It’s possible that perhaps you’ve accustomed yourself to just not noticing or caring that there are people paying attention to you. Unless you happen to reside in the most liberal minded community in America…(does it exist?) people are definitely noticing you. They may not be saying or doing anything negative, but they are definitely observing you. You may very well live in a liberal area, but I can assure you, there are plenty of places where people will be very vocal concerning your appearance.
CD'ing aside, IMHO I really do think that most people are so self-absorbed that you could walk through a crowded mall dressed like a chicken and fewer people would notice you than wouldn't.
I agree with your last comment. Lacey Leigh's books talk about assuming you are always read and just not caring. I think that this is the best attitude to take.
Deb
Exactly. And even more than just not caring, it's good to assume that when you get to know people while dressed, many will respond positively as they have with my SO. A CDer doesn't have to be mistaken for a woman in order to be accepted for who she is.
Reine
I have to agree wholeheartedly. Its more than just indifference - people can be genuinely welcoming and friendly even to an apparent CDr like myself.
This afternoon I stopped at Starbucks for a smoothie and then to Dress Barn. The young male baristas were entirely courteous. While I sat and enjoyed my smoothie three young men, college students I guess, sat the sofa and easy chair oposite me. None of them said or did anything to suggest they were the least bit uncomfortable with my presense. When I got up I offered another member of their party my seat and they smiled and thanked me.
At Dress Barn, the store manager (Kelley) greeted me and reminded me she'd helped me choose tops a few weeks ago. We chatted as I browsed. I only bought a couple of necklaces (bogo) but we had a great conversation. She knows I'm male, married and so on, and truly she couldn't have been more friendly. Sure, she's paid to be friendly, but it was still very pleasant.
A few minutes ago, I had to drop our dogs off at the kennel - we're making a trip out of town. Rather than change back into drabs, I decided to heck with it and brought our girls in just as I was. I visited with a couple that was dropping off a pet and with the girl at the front desk. She had to call our vet to get a vaccination record, and said "she's here dropping them off" while she was talking to the vets office. Maybe she thought I looked like a mature woman or maybe she was just being very considerate. Either way, I enjoyed the expereince and felt fully at home en femme.
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