While some of the post-op girls like to pretend that you have to have had SRS (or at least want it) to be a "real woman"(tm) the rest of us know better.
I completely understand where you are coming from. I used to feel that way myself... but as you walk this path, things ... change. What you will want tomorrow is not always what you wanted yesterday. What you wanted yesterday is not always what you want today. As you come to know yourself better, you will grow, and as you start to understand who you really are - you may well start to feel differently.
It is also true that trans acceleration is VERY real. As you start down the path, your plan will change, and develop, and you will want to do more, sooner than you ever expected. For me it was a bit breath-taking. I used to feel very much like you describe... today I am saving money for SRS.
But even without SRS you are still a girl... There are lots of girls out there who have not had SRS for a lot of very valid reasons. That doesn't mean that any of them are not real women... and if you choose to join their ranks, only the most bigoted among us would deny you your identity.
