Bi, when dressed

[Elizabeth Ann]

I think many people in this tread do not understand, me included, the idea of a split personality where tastes and sexual attraction change this drastically based on just the clothes that someone wears. You see it in children as they go off into fantasy land, but in adults?

For a few around here, I have to wonder if cross dressing is just a convoluted way to allow themselves to have sex with other men without having to face facts.
That they are attracted to men.

Okay, one more time, but I am getting really tired of the patronizing "these children don't understand, but I know the REAL TRUTH" attitude.

Could we not turn Momarie's comment on its head: I wonder if denial of this possibility is just a convoluted way to allow themselves to dress without having to face facts. That their sexuality might be flexible. It seems just as plausible, but infinitely more threatening to one's self image.

Tastes and desires change constantly. I didn't want an iphone until I knew they existed, and I didn't want one after I got my android. No split personality involved. Yes, it is a trivial example, but the point is that human beings are subjective creatures. Water feels hot or cold depending on the temperature of our hand. And even our psychological makeup is subjective. We fall in and out of love in ways we claim are beyond our control. We often believe what we want to believe, and remember things in the way we want to remember. Even in the extreme, it is a common observation that soldiers go to their death at least in part because that is what is expected of them.

Several have stated here that they have bisexual feelings only when dressed. Instead of trying to understand it, many have simply rejected it outright. Which, of course, means they have to attack those individuals as wrong and deluded, unable to face the truth as all the rest of us know it to be. Why is this issue not even worthy of analysis and debate? Why must it be rejected immediately?

I would have thought this group in particular would be tolerant of nuance in your personality. Virtually everyone here talks of a "gender spectrum." If one of us tells the group we are at a certain point on that spectrum, their word is usually accepted. But if that person should attempt to wander across a "sexuality spectrum" they are immediately told that they are fooling themselves, that there are only three points: straight, bi, or gay. There is nothing else.

I don't know if there are people who are bi when dressed, but I know there are people who believe they are, and I have heard nothing on this thread to dispute this belief.

Liz