Okay I will say what Sandra (who is a Super Moderator) was wanting to hear in the OP.
I did not tell my wife about my desire to crossdress from a very early age for several years after we were married because I was ashamed of it, I did not think she could possibly understand it, and I was not man enought at the time to get past that.
Now come on everyone very few of you with accepting wifes did not hide your crossdressing from them for quite some time so tell us why?
