Where have all the dresses gone.

[Eryn]

I felt very sad when I first started reading there was a possibility my SO dressed partly because I wasn't feminine enough. In our case (as in most cases) it didn't turn out to be true...

Reine, it's never true in any case...

Well, there may be a germ of truth there. Back before I came to terms with myself I would sometimes project my clothing desires onto my wife. I'd see a pair of cute shoes or a dress and try to get her interested in them but of course her tastes are different than mine. She has a strong sense of practicality that many CDers lack. Her disinterest was frustrating to me and with my lack of communication it was easy to incorrectly perceive this disinterest as a "lack of femininity" or perhaps a "waste of opportunity."

Since then we've become more open with each other and I dress more freely. I now own many items like those in which I was trying to interest my wife. From my new perspective it is easy to see why she doesn't want to spend long periods of time in dresses and heels. To a GG it's a no-brainer, but unless males have "walked the mile" they have no appreciation of the difficulties involved in wearing many items of clothing.

So, please forgive us our warped perspectives. We're wrong, but it's more because of lack of information and communications than any imperious intent.