Name calling is different than saying she does not find you attractive enfemme. Being attractive to another is a subjective response that is different from person to person, some will find you attractive others will not. I think you look great and I do not find many women or men attractive regardless of how they are dressed. Sounds like an attack on your person coming from her dislike of your dressing up and attempting to discourage it.
She may be having a knee jerk reaction to your looking too good. A man being prettier than a woman is probably a bigger sin than a man whose appearance may elicit disgust, shock or dislike because he so obviously looks male
I have seen many instances of anger by women when they encounter a man who looks better enfemme than they do. They already feel insecure in relationship to other women and that just adds to their problems. We are treading on their territory of female beauty and it's subsequent power, taking from them what little power they may already have.
Somehow your dressing enfemme threatens her or takes something from her, attacks are always selfishly motivated. The question is how and or what.
Damned if you do and damned if you don't should follow the definition of man in the dictionary.
