Does your SO allow you to dress in front of them, or prefer it hidden?

[Renee W]

My wife lets me dress anytime I want and to the level that I want. Lately, when I get home from work, she'll ask not "whether or not I'm am going to dress" but rather "Whatcha going to wear tonight?". Last night when I got home, I was tired and needed to feed the dogs and cook dinner, so all I put on was some guy flannel lounge pants, a bra, a silky cowl neck top and a short wig. When I came out of the bedroom she was like "What, no dress!" Later, after dinner, I did go put on my new red dress that I finished making a few days ago.

After I had the dress on, she said go put on the long blonde wig so I can take your picture. After that she said now go put on the black dress on you made so I can take that picture.

We are only at the 7 week anniversary of her finding out about Renee after knowing only Renee's alter ego for almost 18 years. I honestly believe that she accepts and supports me because since she found out:

She has helped me shop for nightgowns online.
She has purchased me panties, a slip and thigh-highs for no reason
For my birthday I got more panties and pantyhose
She has taught me how to sew so I can make my own clothes
She points out clothes in the catalogs that she thinks the style would look good on me
We have ourchased several wigs for each of us (after I tried the ones she already had)
She has taken an interest in the CD culture and read the book "My husband Wears My Clothes"
Together we looked at patterns last night, and she pointed out some that she would like to see me in (going to Jo-Anns today to pick up 20 more patterns on sale, some for me, some for her)
We have plans to do my first makeup lesson Weds night (I suggested Weds since we have a 4 day weekend coming up)

In exchange, I have been more helpful around the house, I surprise her with thank you gifts, I have more meaningful conversations with her.

My only hope is that this is not a phase and that the rest of our lives can be as enjoyable as the last 7 weeks.


My name is Renee W and I'm a CrossDresser.

[BillieJoEllen]

My wife has seen me dressed just three times. A few months after we were married she asked to see 'Billie". She was surprised at how long it took me to get ready. We spent the rest of the evening talking and watching TV. The second time was a few years later. I got up early and dressed. When I walked to the living room she was sleeping on the floor and she woke up. She was very late to work that day. It was very strained between us for a few days. The third time (and much to my regret) I purposely dressed and waited for her to come home. I went all out that evening. She asked what I thought I was doing. My only reason for doing it that night was to show her how much CDing really meant to me. She definitely didn't like my approach. I was told to get rid of all my stuff or she would leave me. Needless to say I didn't and about a month later she left. She left telling me that she would move back in after I got rid of everything and got myself 'cured'. A year later she moved back in after I hid all my stuff and told her otherwise. I really hated lying to her. A few years after that she found a lot of my stuff and moved out again. After a year she moved back in. We don't talk about it anymore and to tell the truth I don't know what she thinks anymore. I do treat her like a queen though, something I really didn't do before.

[Jessica86]

Mine accepts, but doesn't really care which "version" I am in. She's just as happy with Jessica as she is with me. It wasn't always like that though, and I think that's what most people don't understand. Feelings change. My wife grows more comfortable with it everyday.

[Nicole Marie]

I don't mean to insult any other SO in this thread or forum but my beautiful, lovely wife allows me to dress whenever I want to--undergarments, dresses, skirts, full make-up and wig. I'm pretty much hair-free year-round from the neck down. We try to go out as much as we can to conventional, "straight" places--movie theatres, restaurants, etc. Yes, I can pass and with my wife's input, I can "blend" as well. I am the luckiest married crossdresser in the universe!

[bridget thronton]

I do dress most days with my SO around and have done so on vacations too.

[JamieG]

I wonder why you SO is like that?? So puzzling.
L&R....................Tara

Well Tara, I think it's like this: she knows it makes me happy and therefore wants me to do it. However, it's just not something she finds fun or entertaining. After all, I am her husband and I'm sure she would rather not "have it in her face" most of the time. Some guys may be football nuts and have wives who hate sports. Their wives will find something else to do on Sunday afternoons, but will happily buy that signed jersey for their husbands for Christmas. I don't see this as really any different.

[Aprilrain]

Well Tara, I think it's like this: she knows it makes me happy and therefore wants me to do it. However, it's just not something she finds fun or entertaining. After all, I am her husband and I'm sure she would rather not "have it in her face" most of the time. Some guys may be football nuts and have wives who hate sports. Their wives will find something else to do on Sunday afternoons, but will happily buy that signed jersey for their husbands for Christmas. I don't see this as really any different.

This is a very good analogy, my BF is a CDer and LOVES football neither activity really does anything for me. Last sunday while he watched football I went shopping with my ex, we bought clothes for the kids (life is nothing if not weird!) He hasn't been CDing lately but if he wanted to I would just find something else to do.

[McKailah]

My wife has no problem with me dressing in front of her, but we have both agreed that I will not dress in front of our son. The problem with this agreement is I am never away from him unless my wife is away with him. Since my son was born, I have dressed maybe seven times...in three years. I love to dress, and my wife is accepting and supportive, but we do not want to expose our son to that right now. Maybe when he is old enough to understand.

[allie45]

My wife is happy for me to dress in front of her. She even does my make up when we go out.
If we stay in, we both put on our nighties and watch a movie together.
I know this is not always the norm, so I do feel very lucky that she is so accepting.

[Tina B.]

My wife takes me as I am, just as I do her, so I wear what I want and so does she.
Tina B.

[PretzelGirl]

First, for each and every one of the couples represented here, it is good to see workable solutions no matter what they are. This is different for all of us and the solutions are sometimes different by necessity. But keeping the bond of marriage first is the common theme.

My wife is okay with complete openness. We shop together and help each other with outfit selections. Yesterday, she was asking me if she could try on a pair of leggings as she wanted to buy some and wasn't sure about size. I gave her my favorite pair and they fit her perfectly. So I gave them to her and loaned her a sweater dress outfit so she could wear it that day. She looked great as always. Yes, I am thankful.

[S. Lisa Smith]

This is a very good analogy, my BF is a CDer and LOVES football neither activity really does anything for me. Last sunday while he watched football I went shopping with my ex, we bought clothes for the kids (life is nothing if not weird!) He hasn't been CDing lately but if he wanted to I would just find something else to do.

That is exactly what my wife does. If I dress, she goes shopping or some other activity. We find it a good balance.

[TGMarla]

My wife not only prefers it to remain hidden, she all but demands it. She was deeply unhappy about it all when she found out....my fault for not telling her before we married....and I completely understand her trepidation. I really have no problem with it at all. In fact, I think I prefer it that way myself. I enjoy my femme time, but when my wife is around, I'd rather be her husband. So I do her the favor of keeping this whole thing to myself, and I go out of my way to not stick it in her face. What we are left with is a situation that works well for both of us, and I, for one, don't complain about it.