I really worry that the Anonymous GG is not going to get what she needs from this thread. This morning I corrected another poster for interpreting the question as bitter or negative but the more I read it the more, like others have commented here, it reads like she is afraid to ask the question she really needs the answer to and that question is one she must address to her own partner. The question has made some people here defensive, some defiant, some flippant and some gloriously generous and supportive; but no answer she can get from us will be valid for her own relationship. Did she anticipate we would give her a reply she could use to slap her partner in the face? Did she hope the voice of this forum could reassure her the he is faithful, isn't going to turn into a woman, isn't going to embarrass her in public? Her question seems so full of unspoken upset and anger (I accept I could be totally wrong, but her need to stay anonymous unfolds a panoply or possible interpretations.)
I had misgivings when this post came out about the wisdom of allowing people to ask anonymous questions in this way, but didn't have time to reflect on what was causing those misgivings. I asked Reine if it was "fair" and she essentially replied that it was necessary for the GG. That's a different adjective. I don't think, GG, you have asked the question you need the answer to. I think you are hurting, scared and angry and I'm really worried that our replies here won't soothe, reassure or calm you.
Me:
I label this side of me Rachel to help me understand and describe it but I feel both the man and the woman inside of me at all times. To me, we are both the same person, coexisting. I dress because when I do, the woman inside of me leaps for joy at being free to express herself in my behaviour after so many decades of neglect and suppression. Simultaneously the man inside me celebrates release from having to keep up the preposterous pantomime of masculinity. The answer to all your questions is, no I do not have the temerity to think I can understand what it means to "be a woman" in the way you mean it, but that is only one of several ways to mean it. Yes some discussions on here are very puerile but it won't help you to judge us, nor your partner, by the frivolous banter of anonymised alter egos seeking psychological release from the strain of lying to the world about who we are inside.
I genuinely hope you resolve whatever issue caused you to want to ask this question. Best wishes, anonymous GG.
