Quote Originally Posted by LilSissyStevie View Post
Whenever I see people try to explain Forced Feminization stories as some kind of mental trick to assuage guilt or shame, I think of all the times I use to fantasize about tossing my first wife into a wood chipper. I knew it was wrong to think about doing that to the mother of my children and I felt guilt and shame about it, too. But I never fantasized that someone was forcing me to throw her in so I wouldn't have to feel bad about it. I'm probably just not clever enough to trick myself into believing that, by fantasizing that someone is forcing me to crossdress, I'm not really fantasizing about crossdressing or that it somehow preserves my masculine dignity if I fantasize about a woman forcing me to wear a petticoat but not if I just put the petticoat on of my own volition. The guilt theory is absurd. My own speculation about FF fantasies is that they are about the need to be desired as feminine beings. We want our partner to desire our femininity enough to force (help) us throw off the masculine veneer so we can surrender to the inner feminine essence. Sure, in most cases it ain't never gonna happen but, hey, that's why it's called fantasy!
I disagree with your conclusion that the guilt theory is absurd. A fantasy about forced crossdressing is still a fantasy about crossdressing. Many men have difficulty overcoming the feelings of shame and guilt associated with what many in society regard as a taboo activity. Fantasizing that it is out of your control for whatever reason, enables the mind to get beyond the shame in its fantasies so that it can concentrate on the crossdressing itself.

I agree with your excellent first paragraph about the nature of the petticoat punishment literature, and while your theory about the need to be desired as a feminine being is no doubt true in a great many cases, I still believe that there is an element of guilt assuaging in the minds of many. I think it is likely a larger part of personal fantasizing than it is of fiction, however. I know of no studies about this, but find no basis for the outright dismissal of the guilt theory.

Veronica