Difference between transgendered and a crossdresser

[Katesback]

So you noticed the endless loop thing with many trans people? You notices that a surprising number are stuck in some sort of trannyland environment? You also noticed that of these people they tend to be the ones that are active in in this trans community? I would also guess these people are the ones that also tend to be activis. Am I onto something here?

Now getting back to the concept of separation of TS from the trans community. If it is all to often the case that those people you see in the community are stuck in the endless loop and you are one of the few that are actually progressing towards a goal would it make sense that you would leave the community and surround yourself with the normal world that challenges you to be the best you can be? Perhaps I should ask the question a different way. Do you think Tiger Woods (professional golfer) became as good as he is by playing people that were not a challenge to him? I mean you can call yourself a master fisherman if you are fishing for fish in a bucket.

So now we get back to the original post. Difference between a woman and a crossdresser. Well a crossdresser is a man (or at least he is till the time he transitions if he does) and a woman is a woman. If a CD decides to dress up as a woman its for fun because he is not a woman. If someone is a TS and really serious then they are not a man now are they?

The point is this is my life. I didn't wake up one day and say, "hey, I need a "cause" I think I'll go be a transsexual!" this is not a cause for me, this is me trying to make the most of a difficult situation. Every step of the way it has been me doing the research, sending emails, making phone calls, meeting my therapist, taking the risks and spending MY money. If by "community" you mean on-line resources and local TS support meeting then there is no need for me to separate myself from anything, those were tools that i used and continue to use. If by community you mean the host of CD, gender queer, and gay and lesbian events that so many trans people like to attend then yeah i have little interest in those things. been there done that and don't wear the tee shirt! thats not me. Again other than just not having an interest in those things it not something i need to actively separate my self from i just don't go. I have one TS friend who is serious and is making progress like me so many others I know are caught in an endless loop of money, job, family yada yada yada ISUESS! these are the girls that seem to be the most interested in Trans stuff.