Quote Originally Posted by Jenniferathome View Post
After I came out of the closet, she told me no one would ever recognize me, she can't even see "me" in my girl face, she also told me lowlight pass at a distance. So I jumped in.
Be careful about this. I say this because I've been there too. Seeing my SO dressed was such a departure for me from the way he looks in guy mode, that I was also convinced she would never be read or recognized. I hate to say this, but CDers and the wives who love them seldom have objective views on the matter, which when you think of it is natural.

The proof that my earlier assumptions were not true was, it became apparent as we increasingly went out in public, people just seemed to "know". They treat us kindly and with respect, but they still know. Also, a young woman that my SO had befriended in another town (this young woman had only just seen my SO dressed), came to a restaurant in our town with her boyfriend, on a night when my SO was there in guy mode. She immediately recognized him, despite seeing him as a guy in a completely different context. And I have to add that my SO in my opinion passes very well (she and I are similar heights ... she wears low heels and I wear 3-4" heels, she does not wear a wig although in guy mode he keeps his long mid-back hair tied at the nape, he has small hands and feet, no square chin, no adams apple, no beard shadow since he's had laser treatments, etc), although he does look like a guy in guy mode.