Quote Originally Posted by busker View Post
there was an article recently in the nytimes about nixon.
What is your take on Cynthia (?) Nixon [from sex in the city program]who now has a female lover who now has a baby from a male or donor? She seems to think that YOU CAN make a choice. She seems to think one can SWITCH ON gay.
I think you can find acceptance in your sexuality, but there are no on/off switches. Gay people have been saying this for years. We have finally been taken seriously by society when we say that this is not a choice...it's just who we are. I'm sure some CDs and TGs can relate in that statement. Back when it was viewed as being a choice and having an on/off switch, we were mentally insane and receiving electroshock therapy.

I will never perceive my sexuality as a choice. I can accept that people admit to their sexuality late in life, but I do believe it was there all along. I also will maintain that there is no off switch...no change in clothing will change sexuality.

I raised these views (actually from a different thread) on a LGBT meet and it was a sh*t storm. It's a pretty powerful thing that the majority of us hold on to that this is not a choice and does not go away. I had actually never heard of people claiming to be bisexual only when donning certain clothing items until I came to this site.

I'm not sure what that should tell you... But, if sexuality continues to bother you, I'd join my local LGBT group. If you told them you only have fantasies of men when you are dressed as a woman and sent actually attracted to men otherwise, they might call you a fetishist. They might also call you a fetishist if you say you are into CDs only when they are dressed and only attracted to TSs if they ate pre-op. But, at least you'd meet more people and maybe discover more about yourself. Heck, you may realize deep down you are flamingly gay and in denial....in that case, just get on the bus. My lesbian friend is waiting like a wolf because she thinks I'm a lesbian and not bi, but I keep disappointing her. Either way, they are good people and can answer your questions.