I do remember reading your earlier postings.

Under the circumstances, I do understand concern about what is happening and how quickly it is happening. But could you talk more about the hurt, and the anger, and the wanting to vomit ?

What Dav writes about "I can't deal with your doubts on top of the other barriers to getting to a place where I'll be happy." and similar -- that really is quite common in transsexuals. People do not become transsexuals on a whim: they do it because they must. Once they decide they must do these things, the choices for many many narrow to "Do or die". From Dav's perspective, you either take on the role of wanting Dav to (literally) die because you cannot stand the thought of Dav transitioning, or you take on the role of supporting Dav in transition. You are too close to Dav to be allowed the stance of being neutral or background.

Basically, in my estimation, you are going to lose your "son". If you cannot be supportive of your new daughter, you are going to lose her too.

There is potential to position yourself as supporting Dav but wanting the WPATH recommended process to be followed as it has been developed to have the least side effects. You might have to be open about how you already knew about WPATH and about how that was responsible for some of your concerns.

I would, though, point out that having written to Dav about how you wanted to vomit, then you are going to have to do a lot of fence-mending. Someone who is mostly concerned about the health and happiness of their child does not talk to their child that way, not under those circumstances.

Yes, Dav does appear to be rushing or pushing the process. And that is not so uncommon. Once people make up their minds, "therapy" and "getting letters" and even laws can be perceived as being unfair obstacles to be pushed out of the way as soon as possible.

Some of the local people I have talked to say that their experience with the (only) local person authorized to make recommendations to the health care system, consisted mostly of them visiting 3 times (the minimum) and repeating each time, "Yes, I want to do this. Yes I know what I am doing. No, I have not changed my mind." To those people, it seemed like a waste of $500 that could have gone towards their transition. I can see what they mean, even though I do not feel the same way myself about the process.