Only speaking from my point of view.
Honestly, I have no real attachment to my feminine name. My wife and I don't use our names often when communicating with each other (we seem to have an ability to communicate well even non verbally) and at home she calls me by my birth name, even when dressed.
"Whats in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet"
The Bard has it. Whatever name you choose, your love will still be true.
