You need to get your head in a place where you don't care what she thinks and if she uses it as ammunition just remind her that it hurts you and...remind her that you told her because you trusted her and respected her and if she acts that way it destroys that. Basically, for anything out of line, CDing or not...if my wife says something negative I ask her to repeat it, then, if she does, I say I don't understand, please explain... makes her think at least.
