I have been in and out on this most of my adult life .Since i have to face reality about who i am i just go with what i got .If i really had the cash (as we all want lol ) things might change .For now i just try to look the part and do feel more like a women i just put on the fake part which is my guy self when in public
I have a hubcap diamond star halo
I am a girl, but im trapped in a mans body! For me its simply trying to make my appearance match who i am inside...
Looking like one is enough for me, wish i could do it better but that's another story.
its hard for me to answer this question because I distinguish between whit I 'want 'and what I feel is realistically possible. Realistically I am a male emulating (pretending) to be female. What I want is wholly different but unattainable.
I'm constantly confused because I can never decide which I want. Sometimes I feel like I want to just CD and look female but other times I feel like I want to be female.
I want to look as womanly as possible when Stephanie wants to come out and express herself. Otherwise I want to look manly when she is in hiatus. I know I will never pass as a woman, but, as long as I wear the clothes and do not get too close to the mirror I feel great. I've avoided masculine activities which would enhance muscle mass such as weight lifting and excessive exercise. For me to maintain good muscle tone and try not to get that beer belly is enough.
I personally think each human being is born with some degree of each sex. I think how the mind perceives the expectations of society governs how they express his or herself. For me, when it is necessary for my feminine side to calm down my male side Stephanie comes out to be dominant for a day.
I do not feel that I am a woman trapped in a man's body, so I do not want to be a woman for real. I feel I was born with the wrong gender, not the wrong sex. I am not interersted in transitioning, hormones, SRS, and all that. To put it bluntly, I like what I have between my legs. I want to be able to express myself in as feminine a way as possible, and look like a woman fully.
Ruthie
I think it's about being happy with who you are. My experience inside is that much of my psychology is feminine based and within a totally male environment I feel somewhat alienated. Within a female environment I also feel alienated (stop multi-tasking and get to the point dammit!). Cross dressing gives expression to a real aspect of myself. I am not trying to become feminine...I am expressing my femininity. It's difficult to put words to this stuff sometimes isn't it. love Ginny x
When I read the lead post in this thread, it seemed like a yes or no question that could be the subject of a poll. After reading all the various replies, I realize that such a poll would be meaningless, as there are so many ways of looking at the basic question, and we all bring our own interpretation to answering that question.
Kim stated "Realistically I am a male emulating (pretending) to be female." For a great many of us, this is the crux of what we are doing. While there are those who do not fit into that simple explanation, such as those who dress for sexual reasons or comedic reasons, and those who mostly underdress, or dress androgynously, whenever we crossdress more or less fully, and as well as possible under our given circumstances and abilities, we are pretending.
The real question then for the emulators, is the usual "why". Do we pretend to be women because deep down we want to be one, or wish we were one, or somehow feel or sense that we are one, or do we crossdress as a man to experience new and different sensations, escape from the mundane, or enjoy the role playing. In short do we want to be a woman, or do we have no desire to be a woman. I think that it is very difficult for those who answer either way to do so honestly, as we are influenced by so many opinions and viewpoints in these days of the internet.
Veronica
p.s. To answer for myself, I have no desire to be a woman...I think.
Yes.........................................
Small steps for me but I would like to be able to go out shopping with my girl friends dressed and feel comfortable. Right now if I were to go out in public people would no I'm not a woman from 15' away.
I was just thinking the same thing when your post came up.Originally Posted by Marguarite
And then this...
That's an awesome analogy! I love it!
So, to answer the question: If I was standing in front of the Wizard of Oz, and he could give me anything I wanted, this being my one and only chance, and without any repercussions to family, friends, or whoever/whatever, I would ask, “Please sir, can you make me into a girl, just like her?”
Marguarite,
I'm very sure you meant nothing by using the term hermaphrodite but to those that are it is EXTREMELY offensive.
That term is used mainly by the porn industry now.
Intersexed is now the proper term.
I am intersexed. I am 47 XXY for my chromosome count .
Because of this I have a very interesting internal organ structure.
Trust me Marguarite you do not want this stigma.
It is misunderstood, it is made fun of and it is glamorized by the porn industry.
For those of us that are intersexed it is a very difficult road medically and socially.
Julia
Just look like an attractive woman. No change for me.
Charlie you are a very sexy girl!
^ This pretty much nails it for me also. Now, whether that will change at some point... well, only the future will tell.Looking like one is enough for me, wish i could do it better but that's another story.
Yes. How's that for an answer? Unfortunately we play the cards as they are dealt. And although I got a decent hand, it wasn't a Royal Flush or even a Full house. Maybe a flush, maybe even a Queen high Flush. I have played it this long and it can still be a winner.
Let me explain. 30-35 years ago I wanted so bad to be a woman. I knew deep down inside I was one. But things back then were different. The main thing was that the surgery wasn't where I would have lied it. Thus my body had to stay as it was. But my mind could not stay as it was. I had thing to do. I had to live some sort of life. Even though I didn't like it, I lived as a guy. I did pretty well except certain "guy" things I could never understand. Like why do men get a thrill killing animals, or striking another man with their fists or feet, or drinking to get drunk, or being rude and obnoxious. OK before someone gets all wadded up over that, I know it is stereotypes, but when you are invited to participate and you get this sick feeling inside and you would rather do ANYTHING else, you feel like you are missing apart of you. Or you have a part of you that doesn't quite fit, and you have to hide it. So like many here I played a part. That worked, until it didn't.
As I have said before, now I feel I am beyond the age where changing my body and genitals would have any bearing on my life. Yes, I would like the look, yes I would like to see how it feels. But other than that, I am who I am. No one sees that part of me (and I doubt many would want to either). So I can present as a woman. I clean up nicely and I get attention and compliments. So I am in a place right now that is comfortable.
Thus to answer the question: Yes, I want to be a girl but for now I am happy just looking like one. However, if the cards had been dealt differently....
The earth is the mother of all people and all people should have equal rights upon it.
Chief Joseph
Nez Perce
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
I have no affinity for my male self, the only things keeping me here are:
being broke
fear
I'll admit to being a 100% total coward, in addition I put how others view me ahead of my own feelings out of fear of judgement.
So, in a perfect world I imagine I would take a female appearance 100% of the time.
Damn, if I had 10% of the balls some of you girls have here...
(That was metaphorical, physical balls are actually quite annoying.)
I should have a female body to match my brain and soul
[SIZE="2"]I want to look like one, in fact I wish to look like one as much as possible. This may explain why I pop up in this section exclusively – please don’t let me be misunderstood![/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]Yeah, this is pretty much how I feel – no big deal, with plenty of pragmatism thrown into the mix. I am also really a guy, albeit a fairy-like forest creature kind of guy, but I don’t have any dance partners or friends to socialize with (en femme, I mean). I must say I’ve never put my “self” on the shelf for any extended period of time – I can’t afford to let Freddy gather dust, you know…I'm really a guy (all guy) and readily admit that. As such and making all of the feelings my own, I put the dressing on the shelf for basically a year or so but realized I really love the expression and enjoy taking part of the experience of dressing and dancing and socializing en femme. It is a part of who I am. That being said I never overblow what I do nor do I think it's a big deal. I just do it and take a pragmatic approach.
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All of the above for me.
just look like one. i have no desire to be a girl....
<3 Jenny
I am happy as a man who has an interesting hobby, crossdressing and trying to look as much as a women as possible, when ever I want.
And that's not all the time. Being in the closet does restrict my needs sometime.... *sigh* ...it would be nice to be able to go out en femme whenever my desires dictate.
Candice Coleen Kowal
30 years ago I used to cry myself to sleep wanting to know why wasn't I a girl. Today, I wouldn't trade my life. Dressing is fine, execially since my SO is accepting now. To those that are in the stage I was 30 years ago, hang in there!
13 years ago when i got married i had no intrest in becoming a woman, and now i wish i was. had i started dressing when i was a preteen then i have no doubt that i would have ended up a girl. now that i am married and have this whole other life and have asked others in my family about how they feel i know now that i would have to give up most of my family. sometime i lay around at night and still wish i had been born a girl. my SO gives me a lot of freedom to express my self as much as i like and i lover her for that but i don't think she understands my feelings on this. we have talked about it only to have more questions than when i started the conversation.lol i guess for now that unless something significantly changes in my live i will have to stay the way i am which is...a girl trapped in a man's body.
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