Whats the thrill in going out?

[TxKimberly]

I dont mean to sound confrontational, but ask your SO why SHE insists on leaving the house as a female? Why does she want to leave her four walls? Why does she want to enter the real world, to walk about, to socialize? Tell her that all of the reasons that she gives are yours as well. You do not wish to be cooped up in four small walls. You do not wish to be confined. You wish and desire to enter the world as you think is right - as a female. Tell her that you long to see the world as a butterfly and not as a caterpillar (a glorified worm). If she doesnt "get it" then you are in trouble.

Because it's something I usually don't get to do! I don't pass - at all - and I think that works out to my benefit. People know me in my usual haunts. People think I'm a nice person. They then see me dressed, interact with me, and realize that I'm the same nice person I always was - I'm just wearing cuter clothes. They realize that I'm not what they were expecting - the odd, perverted freak that people seem to think we are. Instead, they see that I am just me. Who knows? Maybe one day that odd and totally incorrect characterization will be gone. Yay for one less stigma!

In addition, it is exactly as you described - the feelings. I get to feel the tug and flow of unfamiliar clothes. I get to hear the sound of my heels (heck, I get to smile at the mere thought of saying the words "my heels"). I get to smell the makeup. I get to see me in the mirrors of the changing rooms. It is a very sensory experience that is usually denied us.

Kathi

If I didn't know any better, I'd swear that Kathi and I were related . . .